Go Deeper: How to Get a Good Latch

How to get a deep latch can feel confusing — especially when your baby won’t open wide or keeps sliding shallow.
You’ve read the steps, but in the moment it’s hard to know what you’re missing. That’s why I created this 20-minute step-by-step video tutorial: so you can actually see what to do, one phase at a time.
In this tutorial, I’ll walk you through the exact process of helping your baby latch more deeply — from positioning at the start, to the timing that makes all the difference, to what to do when things don’t go as planned.
You’ll see how the latching process is supposed to unfold — and how to adjust when it doesn’t — so you can feel more confident about the whole latching process.
What's inside this 20-minute latching tutorial:
- The 3 phases of latching — positioning, latch, and getting comfortable
- How to use your hands (not just your arms) for better control and less pain
- The ABCs of positioning — arms, belly, chin — to set up a deeper latch
- Why timing is everything in reducing pain (and what to watch for)
- Two simple hacks for common problems (baby won’t look up or sucks your nipple in their mouth)
- How to help your baby come forward at their widest gape
- What to do if the latch falls apart — and how to reset without guilt
Know exactly what to do, step by step, so you can make the next latch — and every one after that — feel better.
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How to get a deep latch can feel confusing — especially when your baby won’t open wide or keeps sliding shallow.
You’ve read the steps, but in the moment it’s hard to know what you’re missing. That’s why I created this 20-minute step-by-step video tutorial: so you can actually see what to do, one phase at a time.
In this tutorial, I’ll walk you through the exact process of helping your baby latch more deeply — from positioning at the start, to the timing that makes all the difference, to what to do when things don’t go as planned.
You’ll see how the latching process is supposed to unfold — and how to adjust when it doesn’t — so you can feel more confident about the whole latching process.
What's inside this 20-minute latching tutorial:
- The 3 phases of latching — positioning, latch, and getting comfortable
- How to use your hands (not just your arms) for better control and less pain
- The ABCs of positioning — arms, belly, chin — to set up a deeper latch
- Why timing is everything in reducing pain (and what to watch for)
- Two simple hacks for common problems (baby won’t look up or sucks your nipple in their mouth)
- How to help your baby come forward at their widest gape
- What to do if the latch falls apart — and how to reset without guilt
Know exactly what to do, step by step, so you can make the next latch — and every one after that — feel better.
Video Tutorial: How to Get a Good Latch

Want to see something specific? Here’s a quick timeline of what's inside.
- 00:00 – Why latching is a skill
Why it feels tricky, why crisis mode isn’t the time to practice, and giving yourself grace - 00:02:00 – Phase 1: Positioning
Cross-cradle hold, why your hand matters more than your arm, and the ABCs (arms, belly, chin) - 00:09:00 – Phase 2: The latch itself
Waiting for your baby’s cues, why timing is everything, and how to let baby do as much as they can - 00:13:00 – Ideal pattern recap
Seek → chin plant → gape → forward, and why reflexive latching skills grow over time - 00:15:30 – Two quick hacks
Helping babies who don’t seek and babies who start sucking too soon - 00:19:00 – Phase 3: Getting comfortable
Leaning back, swapping arms, and supporting your body so feeding feels sustainable - 00:20:00 – Final recap
Breaking latching into 3 phases, why practice matters, and how to troubleshoot step by step
Still Need more help?
🔒 Go Deeper Live Replay: How to Latch With Large Breasts
🔒 What it Really Looks Like: Getting a Deeper Latch
🔒 Downloadable Latching Quick Start Guide & Troubleshooting Checklist
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