If you’ve been trying to figure out how to get a deep latch—but it still feels shallow, pinchy, or awkward—this live coaching session shows how a few small shifts can make a big difference.free downloadable guide
Wondering what using your baby's reflexes to get a deep latch looks like? Here’s what we walk through in this live coaching session:
➤ How to position your baby so their reflexes can actually work ➤ What to do with your nipple (and what not to) ➤ When to help—and when to pause and wait for the gape ➤ How to tell if your baby’s latch is actually deep enough ➤ What to try when your baby keeps slipping down the nipple
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Reflexive Latching Live: Getting the Gape with Large Breasts
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Hi! I’m Avery —an IBCLC and educator with over twenty-five years of experience, and I'm so glad you're here. I started this blog because I know how overwhelming it can feel when feeding doesn’t go the way it’s “supposed to.”
After working with hundreds (and hundreds) of families, I wanted a space to share what actually works—clearly, compassionately, and without all the noise.
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